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Last month on my Wordpress blog I wrote about a somewhat zany idea I had about reverse gift-buying, and how I talked our family into trying it this Christmas shopping season.

After some initial skepticism, I think many of my family members were surprised at how well it worked.

At first it seemed weird, though, to shop for ourselves. A few of us bought things we needed. My husband bought a replacement grill for our Weber, and designated it a gift from my brother and sister-in-law.

One of our sons bought a gift certificate to have his car detailed, and made it from me and my husband.

My sister bought a pressure cooker as a gift from several family members.

I bought a GoPro camera, and made it a single gift from everyone in my family. Others chose things they wanted and needed that no one would’ve thought of, or in some cases, would have exceeded the budget limits we set up for individual presents.

But this year, no returns, no duplicates, no exchanges — all purchases were made at the discretion of each person’s budget, and everyone was surprised to learn what they had “given” each other.

Our daughter-in-law noted how we all spent much less this year on gifts.

Our exercise in observing gift exchanges differently still offered surprise and delight. One lesson from our experiment is, we can avoid the gift-giving frenzy fueled by Christmas which often seems arbitrary and meaningless, and spend less time shopping, and more time interacting with each other.

There were a couple of glitches. Two of my family members didn’t realize they were supposed to wrap and tag the gifts, and then bring them to open, so they had to announce, things like “Thanks for the DVD you gave me!” (when there wasn’t a DVD present). This shows the process would benefit from some tweaking!

But even so, I want to thank everyone in my family for going along with it. I love them all so much!

…And now I’m wondering if we can try it again next year?! :)


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I wrote some essays in 2005 to satisfy a long-time desire to write, but work became too busy and I stopped as the year sped by. That December I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

After four years in remission, this blog was resurrected in the summer of 2009 after I was tagged on Facebook's "25 Things."

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Anonymous Ralph A. Gilmore said...

Great post Terri! I found this to be a very creative idea and it's a wonderful spin on the gift of giving. Glad you had a nice Christmas! I hope you're off to a great start to 2017. Cheers!!

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A friend, Annegret, and I were talking on Twitter about memories and our belongings, and it reminded me of a story.

Thirty years ago I had a friend named Kathy. She was such a happy person. She had two rambunctious nephews. One day they came over to visit while she was unpacking some very old and precious Christmas ornaments that belonged to her grandmother. Kathy and her grandmother had a special bond. I had the pleasure of meeting her one summer when I visited her family in Atwater, Minnesota.

Kathy's nephews, who were maybe 8 and 10 years old at the time, were admiring the ornaments, and she said, “Here, why don’t you choose some to keep?!”

I remember feeling shocked. Giving some very old and irreplaceable heirlooms to two little boys? How insane!

I'm sentimental and like to keep things that are dear, nearby. The idea of giving such special things to children who, God forbid, could destroy them, seemed crazy. Annegret and I agreed—our things have meaning for us and are symbols of our thoughts and feelings.

But Kathy taught me something interesting that I've thought about for a long time.

She has always been a very secure and happy person. She is kind and generous and full of love and loves to share all she has. All of her happiness and feelings of security reside in her head and her heart, so she doesn’t really need physical possessions as symbols of people or memories. Her happiness is self contained. Her feelings for her grandmother were part of her, so she didn’t need the outward material things to remind her. Giving the ornaments to her nephews gave her joy, and in turn, her nephews learned a firsthand lesson about love, trust and generosity.

I think I’ve always been a less secure person. It comforts me to me to keep things as reminders of people, places or memories. So I have a lot of external reminders. Another friend has always lived by the other extreme of, "if in doubt, throw it out." As I've grown older, I've found I'm ready to let go of more and more. I haven't reached the same level as Kathy, but I'm working on it.

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Blogger Linda Freeman said...

Hi Terri,

Your blog posts are always thought provoking, and this one is no exception!

I agree that one meaning that giving away a prized possession has is that the giver is secure in his or her happiness and love for the one who gave it to them.

Another meaning it has for me is whether I'm willing to truly see it as a gift, with no strings attached. For example, I inherited some limited edition prints that are valuable for both sentimental and monetary reasons. Before giving one away as a gift, I ask myself, "Will I be upset if the receiver throws it out?" If I would be, I don't feel comfortable giving it away. If I feel that it is theirs to decide because it was gifted by me and now is theirs, then I feel free to do it. So I try to predict my reaction to the "worst case scenario," since I don't want to set myself up and be annoyed with a friend or relative for what is rightfully theirs.

Thanks again for another excellent post!

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Terri, thank you very much for mentioning me in your post. What I have learned is that the older I become the more I appreciate my memories.

Annegret

11:20 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Linda,
I'm so grateful to have you as a real-life friend, and appreciate you taking the time to read and comment.
I related to your questions about giving things away without regret. I think my tendency was to always over analyze. But one day as I was thinking about having four floors packed with things, I considered what it would be like for our kids to have to clear it all away and freaked out a little. All the things I'm keeping will have almost no meaning for them. So I'm really trying to give things away and donate to charity. Still, I've barely made a dent!
I hope someday to be able to purge it all without regret!
Thank you again! ((HUGS)) Terri

8:42 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Annegret, thank you for being such a great friend. We've shared so many conversations, I really feel as though I know you.

I, too, appreciate my memories, and hope I can let go of the of the physical representations and learn to cherish the good thoughts!

Warm ((hugs)) Terri

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"INVU4URAQT" used to be an autograph saying kids would write in yearbooks at the end of the school year.

A wealthy friend travels the world but spends most of her time alone. Another is successful but waited too long to have a baby. Another has everything except her life mate who died too young. And another goes on a dozen cruises a year to every corner of the world—sometimes taking the same exact cruise twice—for what reason? It seems like he is searching for something he'll never find.

It so happens my husband and I are surrounded by people who have made a ton of money throughout their careers. Many people believe "if only I were wealthy—it would solve all of life's problems." But wealth and resources are not panaceas. Despite the resources a person has, it doesn't guarantee life will be wonderful. Once critical issues like having food, clothing and shelter are answered, everything beyond that speaks to enhanced quality of life. But it doesn't necessarily lead to happiness.

Perhaps because our parents lived through the Great Depression, David and I don't subscribe to planned obsolescence. One of our TVs has a cathode tube! My friend, Reg, can only shake his head with dismay.

New and bigger isn't always better. Seeing people who are able to do extravagant things is interesting and fun to observe. All it takes is a catastrophic illness to make a person realize how grand it is to simply be alive. When you are alive, you have something not even John F. Kennedy Jr., has! Money can't bring you back to life. (At least, not yet!)

Envy can be such a destructive force. It can make a full and satisfying life seem deficient.

There will always be things we see, admire and wish to attain. Having goals is good and helps propel us forward, but only if the quest is driven by personal desire--not envy.


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Terri,
you are right. You always have to remember: You are not the others, you are an individual. You have your individual situation of life. Why always bigger, higher, more and more? You have to do the best with the given things. May be you can not afford a big car, a long journey, a big house. But this does not matter. Look around you: you have your familiy, you are healthy, you have your home. These are things many people do not have. Be happy with your situation and keep on smiling! That's life!

Annegret

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Annegret,
Thank you for reading and responding to this post. You're such an amazing friend. I really appreciate you!
To be honest, I gave up wanting what others have a long time ago. It wastes energy and never leads to a happy outcome!
Once all of the essentials are cover, family is number one, followed by health.
You and I both are fortunate to have both!
Always smiling when we cross paths!
Thank you again!
Warm ((hugs))
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Okay so some of you guys know I went to Los Angeles last week. There are more details about the gathering I attended on my other blog

American Express made it easy to get my flight using miles, but booking a hotel was an adventure. I looked and looked, using many of the usual sites and didn't feel like there was a significant difference between them. It's not as simple as it should be.

Basically, I know nothing about LA, so didn't feel like I could find a place on AirBNB and confidently know it would be convenient in terms of getting to the W Hotel in Westwood—the venue of the #140confLA event. So I tried to find a reasonably priced room in the W Hotel, which is across from the Mildred E. Mathias Botanical Garden at UCLA. (BTW, there wasn't a reasonably priced room, but I bit the bullet and booked it anyway since the event was taking place there.)

Being a little bit nervous traveling by myself because I usually have my trusty Sherpa a.k.a. husband David Horsfall with me, I wasn't sure how to get from the airport to the hotel. So I called the hotel and I asked them what was the easiest way to get there from LAX? One person at the W suggested I call Uber; another person at the W said they didn't think Uber went to the airport, and suggested a taxi, and finally the third person suggested taking a shuttle from LAX to the hotel. So I went online and found the shuttle's website was kind of broken, and trying again when I went to our storeand I was able to reserve a ticket and it looked like it was all good.

It'd been a long time since I've flown on Alaska Airlines because back when I was doing a lot of web-press printing, I frequently flew back and forth between Seattle and Portland on Alaska for press checks. (Press checks involve the designer going to the printing plant to view and supervise the quality of a project being printed.)

Over the course of maybe 10 trips from Seattle to Portland and back, I was pulled out of line and searched every flight, because as everyone knows, I look exactly like a terrorist. I wrote a letter to the president of Alaska Airlines, who said there were reasons why I was "selected" for the experience of being embarrassed and handled by people prior to every flight, but I never got an adequate explanation. So I stopped using their airline for about a decade.

Anyhow. the experience I had on Alaska Airlines was very positive this time. I was happy, and it seemed like a good omen.

Not.

The flight from Seattle to Los Angeles is about two hours and 45 minutes. Alaska checked my carry-on bag because the flight was full, so after landing, I picked up my rolling bag and headed out to the transportation area.

It turned out I'd just missed the shuttle, so I had to wait more than an hour for the next one. Drats! But I wasn't in a hurry — just tired and hot. When the shuttle finally arrived, I asked the driver if they stopped at the W Hotel, and she said yes. So I boarded and was on my way.

It took about 45 minutes to get to the W from the airport because of traffic. I walked into the lobby and the three people at the desk were (to quote Meryl Streep's character in The Devil Wears Prada) "moving at a glacial pace." After 10-15 minutes, someone finally helped me. But in searching for my reservation, it wasn't to be found.

She called the "other W" hotel, in Westwood (at this point, I had no idea where I was or that there were TWO "W" hotels) and they confirmed my reservation was at the other one.

So I summoned an Uber, and within a half hour, I finally arrived at the hotel, more than three hours after I'd landed at LAX. This means it took longer for me to get from LAX to the W Hotel than it took to fly from Seattle to Los Angeles!

Hot, tired and exhausted, I checked into a room that was large enough to house a family of 4. It was freezing cold, but a pleasant change from the outside temperature. I showered, changed, then went to the lobby to meet Marsha Collier and her husband Curt. We both had looked forward to that moment, so it was amazing and great to finally meet in real life!

The #140confLA event was attended by a ton of people. At the end of the evening, I took the elevator up to my room, opened the door, and was hit with a blast of cold air.

Fiddling around with the thermostat, I was unable to adjust the temperature. I took a hot shower to warm up, but found myself shivering under the covers, even after piling the extra down pillows on top of myself for warmth.

I called the front desk around midnight and explained the situation. A nice maintenance man came up, armed with a space heater. A SPACE HEATER. In the W Hotel. I mean, was this room really worth $400?

The space heater remained on all night and throughout the morning while prior to my departure. When I got back to Seattle, I received a questionnaire from the hotel. I had some major issues, like, why doesn't the hotel have a standard recommendation for transportation for hotel guests? And why isn't the desk staff on the same page? The front desk person at the WRONG W hotel told me this mishap happens frequently. Um. Doesn't this protocol seem like something that needs to be fixed?

They took note, and the W made a gesture of peace by offering me another night there. I don't know if it will make sense to stay there the next time I go to LA, but I sure hope they get it together by then.

As my friend Reg Saddler says, it was a case of "first-world problems."
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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Crazy... especially the traveling from the airport to the (right) W Hotel taking longer than the actual flight from Seattle. Very glad to see you made suggestions to the W Hotel to improve customer service -- given that the mix ups about the two hotels happens often, they really should be on it. And the space heater? wow.... Well, I'm glad you saw some of your Twitter friends, AND the photos of the lobby art... beautiful. -- Lissa

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

It was quite insane getting from the airport to the hotel. I had the impression that once a reservation is made, the rest of the trip isn't their concern. But the condition of the room IS something they should be able to control.

Twitter friends who become real-life friends are similar to long-distance colleagues you finally have a chance to meet, but maybe even more meaningful since you can choose your friends, but can't always choose who represents your vendors.

Love ya!

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Blogger David Horsfall said...

Good description of the perils of flying to LA these days. Tell them to book the next conference in Hawaii and your trusty Sherpa will gladly go.

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Blogger Diana Horsfall said...

It sounds like a disaster. $400 not worse it! It sounds more like you were staying somewhere in motel haha. Happen to us when we did a road trip. Agreed with David, they should have conference in Hawaii;)

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear D,
Hawaii would be an awesome destination but the tradition has been on one coast or the other. Who knows, though? Maybe next time?
Love ya, me

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Diana, I think I said somewhere (maybe on Twitter) that I've had much more positive experiences in a Holiday Inn Express. Offering the one-night voucher was nice, but it would have been completely satisfying if they'd comp'ed the room. It would have negated all of the horrible things leading up to my arrival at the hotel, and compensate for the deficiencies of the room. It's a case of penny wise, pound foolish for the loss of positive exposure they could have reaped.
Love you and thank you for commenting!
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Blogger Jennifer Good said...

What an odyssey, Terri. Traveling is exhausting to begin with without the extra added stress of being lost and not being able to sleep because you're freezing. Sounds like the W could have their act together better. I can't imagine why they'd put you in a room with faulty air conditioning (really, a space heater?!) and it seems pretty basic that they'd mention that they have 2 hotels. Sorry to hear that you had such an unpleasant trip down there but it made for a very good post!

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Jennifer, you really nailed it when you said "traveling is exhausting to begin with..."

Because of a comment made by the maintenance worker, I got the impression the hotel was experiencing a systemic problem, and only responded to people who called the concierge.

When I think of placing a take-out order at any Seattle restaurant with more than one location, invariably they confirm the location where you're placing an order. It does seem strange the hotel made no effort to avoid confusion!

Thanks, as always, for your support, Jennifer. Lots of love, me

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I think kids born in the 1950s and 1960s had the opportunity to try and fail, and their experiences engendered real, contextual learning that prepared them to succeed. Sometimes our parents would say, “good job,” but a pat on the back wasn’t the driving force propelling baby boomers to achieve.

When I was in high school, I ran track. No one came to watch me at a track meet, but it didn't make me feel bad because no one else's parents were there, either. Participation in team sports was driven by the individual child and not by parents who herded or guided kids to take certain paths.

Parents weren’t hyper-vigilant. I believe it's because it wasn't needed. For example, choosing to be part of a team meant there was an intrinsic desire to work cooperatively to achieve a goal. Improvements were based on learning from mistakes, and healthy competition provided important lessons.

These days I think it’s difficult to stay out of the affairs of our children. We want to smooth their paths. But does parental assistance (or interference) really help them, or does it disable their ability to learn to solve problems on their own?

When I was a teenager, I wanted contact lenses. But didn’t feel I could ask my family to pay for something so extravagant. I also knew I would need things for when I moved out for college in the fall: dishes, silverware, glasses, sheets and towels, pots and pans, small appliances, and a bicycle. In order to make it happen, it took planning.

I worked three jobs — part-time after school, a baby sitting gig in the evenings, and a weekend job at Jay Jacobs, where I served on their fashion board. I was able to pay the $600 needed to buy contact lenses, and also saved enough for the bicycle and other things on my list.

This all sounds very much like, “I had to walk ten miles in the snow to get to school,” but it's meant to say hard work is often necessary to get where we want to go. And when self-identified goals are in our sights, we have real incentives to achieve them.

It makes me wonder if every generation feels life was tough when they were young? The saying, “Where there is a will, there’s a way,” is profoundly true. I hope our desire to make life easier for our kids allows them to develop goals, and devise ways to achieve them without mom's and dad’s help.

Resilience. Self reliance. Resourcefulness. Encouraging these qualities could be among the greatest gifts we give to our children.


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Blogger Linda Freeman said...

Hi Terri,

Thanks for your thought-provoking post. It's impressive that you were so self motivated ~ I think that even in the 60s, that was unusual! I had a similar background, but my high-achieving Dad, though he didn't pressure me, was my role model. However, I do agree that kids of our generation were generally more self motivated, partly because we weren't protected from failure.

When our kids were growing up, I did want to know what was going on in their lives, so that my husband and I could decide whether to intervene or not. For example, good universities and the job market are more highly competitive than in the '70s, and if we could make our kids' paths easier, we did. I also wanted to be attuned to their emotional needs. I do agree, however, that learning from failure builds character, and that helicopter parents often prevent that. A Pew Research Study revealed that in 2014, 32% of adults in the U.S. still lived with their parents. Perhaps this relates to young adults being overprotected by their parents.

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Blogger Unknown said...

Hi Terri,
Thanks for this post. Since we come from some of the same beginnings, I agree that our parents instilled in us self motivation with expectations of achievement. Brings back good memories.

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Linda,

Thank you for reading and for your great comments. I don’t think I was especially self-motivated!

I really liked what you said about not being “protected from failure.”

Great lessons are learned from mistakes. Maybe it’s empathy that makes us want to help our kids avoid as many hazards as possible.

I hope it didn’t sound like parents were uninvolved, but I think they placed more faith and responsibility in their kids to have common sense and to learn to figure things out. It was a different time.

I remember taking a bus downtown to the YMCA when I was in the fourth grade so I could take swimming lessons. I can’t imagine most parents would think it’s safe now to let their kids do that.

What a fascinating statistic about the percentage of adults living with their parents!

Another way to view it is, Americans are beginning to embrace the idea that it can beneficial for multiple generations to live together.

Thank you again, Linda. You’re a wonderful and supportive friend.

Warm regards, Terri

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Hi and thank you for reading and commenting!

Sometimes I wonder if the way I grew up was common mostly among Japanese Americans, or Asians? Because I think my peers were equally motivated!

My best friend and I have often talked about how the “camps” really messed with our parents’ generation.

Whatever our origins, I think you’re right — parents of baby boomers instilled self-motivation and expected us to achieve.

And at the end of the day, whatever our successes or failures, we learned self-sufficiency.

I really appreciate your comments!

Warm regards, Terri

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Anonymous Robert of Loxley said...

I just read your blog "Resilience. Self reliance. Resourcefulness." You highlight an important dilema that the kids are facing at the moment. I'm not sure how it is in the US, but I get the feeling that kids here have been made dependent on schools, which don't talk to them, but to the parents instead, and then the parents talk to their kids. The parents have been put in a middle position they have to share with full time and mostly demanding jobs. Exactly the issue you describe has been bothering me a lot. I have 3 boys, all at home, and all having trouble with exactly these 3 issues. And like you, when I go back to my childhood, I can't remember ever having had such issues. If I needed money for something, anything, I had to work for it. I didn't even think of asking from my parents. I moved out when i was 18, wanted to be on my own as soon as possible ... But how to bring these values back, so kids learn this. And it's not that no kid learns to rely on her/himself, most are doing just fine. But mine are not, and I would love to change that, with my 11 hour work day. Are we parents working too hard, are we too ambitious, do we look at the wrong things in our children, is this just a parent problem or is (western) society as a whole also a factor .... Anyway, Happy weekend!

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Blogger Andrea said...

I recall the same sort of experience. My father rarely attended any events. My mother, who was a home for part of my childhood, was involved then was not. We made it to practices and games and got through it all. Thanks for the post! Andrea

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Robert,

My gratitude to you for your comment. I’m sorry you’re experiencing some of the same things, but it reinforces my belief that we’re witnessing a societal outcome.

The question of what to do … I wish I knew. Though we grew up on different continents, your parents and mine raised us so we were able to figure out how to achieve goals. And many of us eventually evolved into self-sufficient adults.

The biggest differences may be the disappearance of the nuclear family as we knew it, combined with advances in technology.

You and I grew up with television, but our kids grew up with video games, computers, and now smart phones. Tech devices are like extensions of their minds and bodies, and have become substitutes for human interaction and thinking. Any question can be answered in seconds, so the exercise of using one’s brain to devise answers has largely been eliminated.

So to answer your question, I think we’re experiencing something unique to the developed world. And I would venture to guess behavior and life skills have remained unchanged in underdeveloped places. I wonder if the Amish have been able to sustain the teaching of how to competently live life?!

I wish there were ways o help equip our kids with the same basic life skills we acquired so long ago. that is, without relinquishing our iPhones.

Many thanks again, Robert!

((HUGS)) Terri

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Andrea,

Thanks for reading and for the comment.

I think we all understood, the absence of our parents didn’t mean they didn’t love us.

That we were allowed, or maybe in some case, expected, to pursue things on our own, engendered self-sufficiency and self confidence.

We didn’t know life to be any different, and actually benefited from it.

Really appreciated hearing from you, Andrea. Thanks again,

<3 Terri

11:30 PM  
Blogger Paula said...

First of all, I loved the photo of you and your first dog in the snow. And yes, we were raised differently, without parents hovering over every move and decision. We were released into the wild at an early age. I fell down many times, but over time it does make one stronger and more capable. I am at the point where I am now very thankful for my "absent parent" upbringing. Thanks for another fantastic post, Terri!

8:05 AM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Paula,

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this post and for the eloquent response. I have almost no photos of myself in my teens and twenties, but found this one that Pat took so long ago.

You and I have talked many times about being the children of Niseis, and know our parents’ experiences influenced us in myriad ways.

But across cultures, I think there was a hands-off parenting mentality. So maybe the current parental hyper-involvement trend is compensating for what boomers missed?

We share a lot of unique and common experiences, and I’m grateful it led us to become friends 40 years ago.

Thank you for always being there for me,

Love, Terri

12:51 PM  
Blogger David Horsfall said...

A very thoughtful piece. I sometimes wish we could reclaim some of the traditional values that we once took for granted. Love the photo.

5:44 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear D,

Thanks for taking a look at the post and commenting.

I think we were trying to recapture our experiences growing up when we bought and saved the house in Randle. It gave our kids and their friends the chance to figure out how to do things on their own.

Fun shot by Patrick! I hadn't seen it for decades.

Love ya, me

7:25 PM  
Blogger Jennifer Good said...

An excellent and very thought provoking post, Terri. I've been chewing on it for the last few days. I've often been grateful to my mother for not overindulging us. At the same time, I wonder if she did it consciously to make us stronger or was it the result of having four children, a part time job, a husband and a home to take care of. I don't remember receiving kudos or anyone cheering me on or helping me, for that matter. Different times. It definitely forced us to be self motivated. If we wanted to do or have something, we had to figure it out. Loved this post, Terri.

7:11 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...


Dear Jennifer,

I’m always grateful to read your thoughts, so thank you for commenting.

Baby boomers seem to identify with similar “growing up” experiences. I wonder if Millennials are the result of compensating for our parents’ “hands-off” parenting style?

“If we wanted to do or have something, we had to figure it out,” is so true! When a kid has to figure out how to get something, all kinds of creativity can come into play! I wonder if it helped cultivate resourcefulness?

Somehow, we survived and even excelled without a lot of cheerleading. Gotta wonder what the future will bring.

Thank you again, Jennifer.

Love, Terri

PS. Four kids, a husband and having a job is a lot by any standard, but amazing for a time when lots of moms were full-time housewives!

12:39 AM  
Blogger Marianne said...

I recently wrote an article similar to this but talked of my excellent Mom kicking us out of the house (more or less) in the morning with the idea that we would arrive back when she called us home for dinner all in one piece. I actually never thought my Mom worried that much about me at all until I went to Europe for three months with a backpack. When I called home once during the trip and I was in Brussels instead of Paris, not where my long forgotten itinerary said I would be, my brother told me she freaked out when she got off the phone. Before that, I never thought she worried about me at all.

The challenge for parents today is being able to step back, have faith they have done a good job as a parent, and let that play out for better or worse (usually better). That is no small feat.

1:59 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Deer Peek,
David and I have been waxing nostalgia about summers of our childhoods, where we were released in the morning, and would industriously build camps, catch critters and play with neighborhood friends until dinner.

Part of letting kids to do that allowed us to learn how to get along ("I want to build the camp over here" "No, we should build it here because it's closer to the apple tree," etc.), and simply learn to hang out and play cooperatively. It's funny how something like "taking turns" is one of the great lessons of life that we learn so young.

I agree with you, and think it's harder now for parents to be more hands off. Everyone is so competitive to have their kids be the best. But in stepping back I believe kids have the opportunity to build a stronger sense of self, and I wish things could roll back just a little.

11:40 PM  
Blogger Solomon Kings said...

Always an inspiration for me to read your piece.. This reminds me of my younger days when I used to play football hoping to be a professional one day.. I never got the approval from my parents and it's a forgotten dream now.

This piece depicted how kind and industrious you're. I must always thank you for the support and encouragement you offered me during the days I couldn't pick what's best for me. I'm doing better now!!

Warm Regards
Solomon (your twitter friend)

4:24 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Solomon,

You honor me by reading and leaving such a nice comment. Thank you so much!

I don't know how long it has been since you played football, but always remember you did it because you loved it and you were good at it. Even if it didn't lead to pro ball, the great memories are yours forever.

I'm so happy to know you're doing well, and thank you for reaching out the other evening on Twitter. It warms my heart to hear from you both there and here, and I really appreciate that you took the time to post such a kind comment.

Keep doing what you love, and it will be its own reward, Solomon!

((HUGS)) Terri

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It’s weird how you can be merrily be rolling along when something you don’t want to happen, happens.

I was in the eighth grade when my family moved from Seattle to Arizona. Middle school is an awkward time, and I was just hitting my stride socially and emotionally. Suddenly I found myself leaving my friends and life for a place with virtually no racial diversity—very different from Seattle. I was initially regarded as somewhat of a freak.

Even so, I managed to adjust to Arizona, and after two years, my dad’s Boeing assignment was done, so we were able to return to Seattle. When we got home, everything was different. Our house had been rented, and the yard, which had always been meticulously maintained, had been completely neglected. In fact, as we drove up to the house, Caesar, a neighborhood kid, was playing with friends and popped his head up from the tall grass that, much to the chagrin of our neighbors, used to be our lawn.

The worst disappointment was learning my parents were going to divorce. At that time, divorce was shameful. Asians stayed unhappily married forever rather than cast shame on their families. But my dad had fallen in love with another woman.

I was embarrassed to be from a "broken home." I knew people talked about us. There was nothing I could do to alter the situation, so I just kept forging ahead, maintaining my grades, and taking after school and weekend jobs to help. I was thinking of my own misery and not thinking about the deeper humiliation my mom must have been experiencing.

As harsh as it was to have divorced parents and to live a new life at poverty level, I filled out my own college applications, applied for grants and ended up at a community college because it was the only school that offered me money.

Working my way through college was amazing accomplishment, but I’ve often wished I could say I’d had financial support from my family.

Many parents today want to avoid subjecting their kids to negative fallout. Not just in instances like divorce, but in any challenges their kids could face where there is a potential of disappointment.

Today I was talking with a friend about her disabled child. Despite the disability, her son is able to attend college part time. taking one to two classes each quarter. In his classes, he performs at an exceptional level.

She believes her son should be on the Dean’s list because he maintains a 3.7 GPA. But the school has a rule that says students must be full-time students in order to be considered for the Dean’s list, so he isn’t eligible.

My friend is upset because she feels her son is disabled, and therefore not subject to the rules that govern able-bodied kids. That said, able-bodied kids taking a full load also have a challenge—juggling the work that comes with taking additional credits.

She will fight tooth and nail to change the school’s policy, and knowing how smart and tenacious she is, there is a good chance she will succeed.

It’s frustrating and sad to have a child who is less abled, and to see rules in place that exclude them from prizes and recognition. But is it the child’s disappointment, or the parent’s?

Her story came on the heels of a discussion with a colleague yesterday about the tendency for today’s parents to protect their children from failure and disappointment. Preemptively smoothing paths for children is well-intentioned, but I think can be a disservice because it impedes opportunities for children to learn to resolve problems on their own.

A disabled child is very different than an able-bodied child. But in both cases, there is a certainty — at some point everyone experiences disappointment.

We’ll never become desensitized to disappointment, whatever the cause. Things will always happen that we don't want to happen. My wise friend, York, offers an answer: "Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst." These are words I’ve come to live by.

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POSTSCRIPT: My friend was successful in forcing the University of Washington to change their policy, and it now allows part-time students to be included on the Dean's List.



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Blogger Diana Horsfall said...

Wow, what an emotional post. Loved to read a story from your life that made me feel closer to you! I wish all the luck to this kid and all energy to mother to fight with unfair rules.

11:15 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Diana,

Thank you for your sincere reply to this post. I do wish luck to my friend, but hearing her arguments, I could see some of the obstacles that might get in the way. I shared York's wisdom thinking it might help her to avoid feeling a lot of disappointment.
Much love to you, and thank you again!

12:45 AM  
Anonymous Stan Stewart said...

Dear Terri,
It's insightful to read your youthful story and how you have transformed it over time. It shows one of the ways you're so resilient and the personal history that's behind it. Beautiful.
Playful blessings,
Stan

3:17 AM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Stan,

Thanks for taking the time to visit my blog and to leave such a thoughtful comment.

It’s great to have fun and joke around, and I’m glad I have the chance to do that with you and our little Twitter posse. But we don't see much depth on social media. I've often said to my kids, every person has a story. That includes the friend who, by the way, was successful in getting her kid on the Dean’s list!

I’m so grateful we have had the chance to meet in person. There is a magical transformation that takes place when that happens. It forever changes a relationship, and in our case, for the better!

Warm hugs, Terri

1:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Great post, Terri Nakamura! I had a pretty crappy week at work, but this was the perfect thing to read! When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade!
- Darkhorse C

6:46 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear DHC,

It was such a wonderful surprise to find your comment here. Thanks for reading and taking the time to respond.

I'm sorry you've had a crappy week at work. I've had a number of not-so-great things happen, too. But I've found it doesn't help to dwell on negative events and people. We give them energy when we spend time thinking about them.

So instead I hope you can redirect your thoughts to something you enjoy. That's what I'm trying to do, and although it's not always successful, it's more successful than it would have been if I allowed negative things to dominate my mind.

((HUGS))

8:21 PM  
Blogger Jennifer Good said...

As long as I've known you, Terri, I didn't know some of these things about you that have helped to shape you into the wonderful person that you are today. It harkens back to your post about resilience and I think helps explain your amazing ability to sympathize with others. I'm happy to hear that your friend got the rules changed for her disabled son. I really think that he deserves special consideration. XO

7:26 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Jennifer,

You're such a great friend. Thank you for your feedback here.

I have been feeling ambivalent about the friend who was able to change the system. On one hand, a true disability should be given consideration. But it opens the possibility of subjectively deciding what is and isn't a disability.

For example, is ADHD a disability? If so, half the kids in school today might qualify.

There is also the notion that kids are either !) not interested in or 2) not able to wage their own battles when it comes to fighting for change.

Still, I know the friend feels overwhelming happiness for her victory, and happiness is what we're all seeking!

Love, Terri

10:57 PM  
Blogger Marianne said...

First off, I can't see you in Arizona, but that's beside the point.

Because I work in education, I'm quick to judge this parent who wants school policy changed for her child. Most school policies are thoughtfully considered and are aimed at encouraging students, not shutting them out, and also rewarding hard work. I don't agree that part time and full time student work is the same, but who am I to question the Huskies? (Go Cougs!)

Regarding disappointment, I've never lost out on something that I didn't feel I also got something out of. Putting yourself out there, taking risks and seeing what happens is living to me. While I may not always like the outcome, there is always reward in trying. Just like Julie Andrews said in Sound of Music, "Whenever God closes a door, somewhere he opens a window." Cue the music....

2:08 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Peek,

Thanks so much for reading this and commenting. You have a lot of experience in the education sector, so it's especially meaningful to read your response.

Personally, I had problems with my friend's efforts. I felt as you do — that there are reasons why specific requirements are identified to "reward" students who make exceptional effort to achieve.

And I'm so on the same page with you regarding disappointment. We learn from every experience, even when the experience is painful.

This all harkens back to parents who insert themselves into a situation on their child's behalf. To my knowledge, the son didn't even care about the Dean's List — it was his mom who felt he deserved it, and intimidated the UW into changing its policy.

By loosening requirements, it makes it easier for people to "game" the system. Who wouldn't love to include "Dean's List" on their C.V.?

1:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Terri,

it is always hard to deal with disappointment. But it does not change things.I made the experience that disappointment makes you stronger and stronger. As I always say: Do your best and be happy!

Annegret

10:54 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Annegret,

Thank you SO MUCH for reading and leaving me a comment. You and I agree on many things in life, and it looks like this is another area where we are in synch.

I love your positive attitude. We've shared a lot of meaningful conversations on all sorts of topics, including the "millennial geeneration." At a certain point we start to sound like "old fogies" — those who are treated derisively by younger people. I guess we must all live through our lives so we have perspective. Even millennials will find themselves in the same place some day.

Thank you again, my friend! <3

Terri

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The Sally Goldmark Library in Madrona is our local branch.

Sometimes I think my husband, David, and I are the only people in Seattle who don’t subscribe to Netflix or Hulu.

I guess one reason why is, we aren’t huge consumers of video content and we'd regard it as wasteful to pay for something we won’t use.

We like watching films and television series, but since we opened Alki Surf Shop, we have even less discretionary time, including TV time. We spend an average of about an hour each evening watching films or programs.

Truth be told, we’d dearly love to "cut the Comcast cord," but there are certain channels that would be a bummer to lose, like Bloomberg News, and any channel that airs "Law and Order" episodes :)

The concept of getting rid of cable became more of a possibility when David discovered a treasure trove of content available through The Seattle Public Library (SPL). He regularly visits the SPL web site, and when he sees movies or TV shows that look promising, we "get it in the queue."

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Built in 1919, our branch was a former firehouse


We’ve come to rely on SPL to supply us with most of our viewing entertainment. Most everything is available regardless of the original source, including new movies and exclusive programming like House of Cards, Game of Thrones or Orange is the New Black.

I imagine what we’re doing harkens back to the early days of Netflix. When we request movies and shows, we receive them in the order they become available. SPL notifies us when the media are delivered to our neighborhood library branch for pick up. You’re allowed to check out 50 items at the same time, so patrons can binge watch/read/listen.

I found some pretty amazing statistics about our library. Among them:


  • In 2014, there were 13,810,274 visits to the central library, branches, and virtual visits
  • 11,744,874 books, DVDs, CDs, audiobooks and digital downloads were circulated
  • In addition, 831,412 reference questions were answered.

Thanks to the Seattle Public Library Foundation, and a $225,000 grant from Google, SPL now has 150 portable wifi hotspots available to loan to library users. Says city librarian Marcellus Turner, "Loaning mobile hotspots to people living without broadband access is another way The Seattle Public Library is taking our mission beyond the walls of our libraries and directly to our patrons where they are."

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SPL's Verizon hotspot is small and amazing

It’s pretty obvious I’m a library fan, and I’m also proud to be a donor.

Seattle friends, if you value our amazing resource, I invite you to join me in supporting the Seattle Public Library!

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Blogger David Horsfall said...

The library is changing with the times, trying to stay relevant in a Facebook-Snapchat-Selfie world, but librarians remain the same – if you're too loud, you get the LOOK.

3:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you! Great article -- so wonderful to see SPL recognized for the way they make books and other media available to people who may not be able to afford buying books, cds and dvds, or subscribing to streaming services, cable or dish. It's always a treat to be on the waiting list and have my turn come up! I used the SPL hotspot recently and had a blast -- have never had an internet connection at home so this was a special treat. Thanks for sharing this and for the happy reminder we have a wonderful library system! YAY!

3:52 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

HA HA! David, I read in the SPL annual report that they SPECIFICALLY DON'T SHUSH PEOPLE!

But I guess it was in context of watching a Seahawks game in the Microsoft auditorium (which looked super fun, by the way).

Thanks and ((HUGS)) for reading!

XO<T

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Blogger terrinakamura said...

Our library system is just amazing—no question! And learning about the wifi program made a big impression on me.

It's cool to see Google underwrite the program, and to see Verizon participate!

I didn't realize you can also "check out" digital media like ebooks, and be able to read them on Kindles or other e-readers. VERY COOL!

Thanks for the awesome comment!

((HUGS)) T

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Since I live in Bellevue I use the King County Library System and I use it regularly for new fiction and music. The SPL sounds very much the same. When my daughter was in middle school she would wait for the day when the new DVDs would be released and she would get in line for her favorite titles. She knew what would be available and would be among the first to see new DVDs. I am glad you’re calling attention to this fantastic resource we have here in the Puget Sound area.

8:01 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Hi and thanks for reading and commenting!

You're absolutely right—King County Library System is also great! ( http://www.kcls.org/ ) and we also have the Washington Talking Book and Braille Library ( http://www.wtbbl.org/ ) as a resource! There is a reason why this part of the country makes it on lists like "most well read cities." I found an interesting Time Magazine article that lists BOTH Seattle and Bellevue! ( http://newsfeed.time.com/2012/05/18/where-are-americas-most-well-read-cities/ )

Sounds like your daughter had the magic strategy of knowing what was coming down the pike, and getting dibs on the new DVDs!

We're really fortunate that our region places such a high value on literacy, and making sure services are available for everyone.

Thanks again!

Terri

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This final day of 2015 started out pretty normally. Woke up, fed the cats, put on my make-up, got dressed, then looked at my to-do list. All doable!

I needed to pick up my car from my mechanic of 19 years, and no one was around to drive me there, so I called Uber . Uber was in 50 percent surge-price mode, so I said, forget that! Opened
Lyft and put in my location and request...

Lyft did something weird.


I watched the Lyft car circle around, then was notified the car had arrived. Scanning all directions—no Lyft. The driver calls and tells me he is in West Seattle. Uh, yeah. I was 20 minutes away in Madrona. Wonder what happened? Obviously I couldn't wait for him, so I called my old standby, Farwest Taxi. They said it would be 15 minutes until a cab would reach me. No thanks. In this age of "I have no time to wait," I called Yellow Cab next. They arrived in 5 minutes.

An older East African gentleman


was driving and he wouldn't exceed 25 MPH. Drove me kind of nuts, actually, and eventually I jumped out a few blocks early and sprinted to my mechanic.

Let me just back up


by saying my family and I went to Star Wars on Tuesday evening. We were in a hurry (of course), but I wanted to grab my gloves out of my car. When I shut the door, I don't know how it was possible, but I slammed it shut on my Northface jacket. The door would. not. open. I had to twist around to extricate myself, then left the jacket hanging outside the door, then ran into the house and got another down coat. (It's really cold here right now.)

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Weird how the door wouldn't open

My car was scheduled for a tune up


at CarTender Wednesday, so I figured I'd ask them to get the door unjammed. I felt pretty lame driving there with my coat partly hanging outside the car.

CarTender always washes and vacuums my car. But this time, I got there and it was still dirty. I asked the car-washing crew what was up, they said, "Well, at least we got your coat out of the door :)" Whoops. I was an ingrate! I paid my bill, wished some of the guys happy new year, drove away and was on to my next errand.

So we got a coupon for a free box of litter from Mud Bay. The coupon expires today. My plan was to pick up the litter after retrieving my car.

After searching 15 minutes for the store, it turned out Mud Bay moved. Guess where? Just a few blocks from my mechanic! Hey, let's drive all around Capitol Hill for no reason! Yay!

I got to the new location for Mud Bay,


but of course there was no parking. So I parked next door at the convenience store, ran in, bought a bag of chips and asked the guy if it would be okay to leave my car there a few minutes.

Zipped into Mud Bay, bag of chips in hand. I thought I should buy something since they were going to give me a box of litter, so I grabbed 10 rattle mice. Rattle mice are toys for cats that look like mice—covered with fur, with ears, a nose, eyes and tail. They have something inside that rattle, which somehow makes it more fun for cats.

Got to the checkout and guess what? They were out of the Oko litter and had no idea when they would get some—a supply chain issue or something. So I bought the rattle mice anyway. I now found myself with a bag of chips and 10 rattle mice I didn't need.


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Sweet dog at Mud Bay


But what's this?



Lyft notifies me they are billing me $5 for a ride cancellation. What a minute. They never showed up. Is that considered a cancellation? Grrrr!


Next stop: Costco.



What do you know? I got a great parking spot just outside the door! Finally, things were looking up!

Costco was a total zoo but I managed to get my stuff and get out within an hour.

As I loaded my car, I walked around to the passenger side, and wow. There was a five-dollar bill on the asphalt! That almost paid for my cab ride!


Seeing that my day was on the upswing,



I had to feel better about the way it started. It was riddled with what my friend Reg likes to call, "first-world problems."
So this evening, to celebrate new year's eve, we met two long-time friends for dinner at
Cafe Lago , one of our favorites. The food reminds us of Tuscany.


One friend got very drunk



and knocked over a full glass of water onto the table, my phone and into my lap. Nice.
After dinner we walked out, freezing pant legs from where I was doused with water, and with drunken friend singing loudly (and out of tune), "You've Lost That Lovin' Feeling." I don't know if I'd lost that lovin' feeling, but I was starting to lose feeling in my legs.


Walked in the door to our home.



A phone call from our property manager, saying our AirBNB  guests lost power on the second floor. Oh, no!

David told them where to find the circuit breaker. Power restored. All good!


Ready to say goodbye to 2015,



I am counting my blessings, I have a wonderful husband, kids, friends and clients. I love our store, Alki Surf Shop , and blessed with many great people in our lives. And I'm also grateful to have my health. Next September 1 will be my 10th anniversary in remission. I'm ready for 2016!


Happy New year to everyone!


If you have any great 2015 stories, I'd love to read them!


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Family together for Christmas, including our two dogs, Grey and Hunter

Verizon Wireless has given me the opportunity to use some of their products. Family photo and coat in the door shot with a Motorola Droid Turbo 2. No other compensation has been received for any of the links mentioned.

Special thanks to Jennifer for inspiring me to write this!



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OpenID horsemarkcards said...

Terri,
The events you experienced sound like they came from a script from 'Seinfled'! Funny how lots of little events can create an interesting and sometimes frustrating day. Glad your family was together during Christmas and you had good times! Looking forward to seeing you in 216!
Happy New Year!

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OpenID horsemarkcards said...

make that 2016! (iPad keyboard acting up in 2016)

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Blogger Mike said...

September is 10 years in remission? Worth the read to get to that closer! Here's to 100 more!

10:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Funny post. One banana peel after another, but you landed on your feet, with the best antipasti in Seattle. Salute!

2:24 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Vickie,
First of all, HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you guys had a relaxing and fun NYE and day!
The day started out so normally, then quickly felt like an imp was messing with me!
Still, all's well that ends well, and it did!
Can't wait to see you guys this year!
Thank you for reading and commenting, V!
((HUGS)) and lots of love, Terri

10:37 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Thanks! For some reason, my mind filled in the blank! XOX

10:38 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Mike, thanks a ton for the sweet comment. Yep—hard to believe it's been so long. Each day is a gift, for sure.
Hoping your 2016 is filled with joy and positive people and things!
Many thanks for reading and for your comment!
Cheers/Terri

10:59 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Banana peels are apparently good for a lot of stuff (http://www.prevention.com/health/life-hacks-using-banana-peels_) I know, weird, right?
The Cafe Lago antipasti is well worth the price of admission. Everyone should be so lucky to start the year with such an amazing treat!
Thank you for reading and commenting!
Happy 2016!
Cheers/Thanks/Terri

11:03 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Such a wacky day. Some days are like that and some go as smooth as silk. Why is that? I agree with Vickie, it was like an episode from Seinfeld. In fact, there's enough fodder there for half a dozen episodes! Happy that you were able to take it in stride and so glad that you wrote about it. It makes me laugh every time I think about you doing those things. Happy New Year, Terri!! XO

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Blogger Paula said...

A lot of curveballs, and you landed on your feet as always. You should be set for smooth sailing for awhile after that day. Cheers to the new year!

4:11 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Jennifer,
Hey, we just got off the phone!
Thanks for inspiring me to "document" my day, and for reading and commenting.
At the end of the day, most of the things that happened that day were annoying, but certainly not big deals! Gotta be grateful we are all happy and well and ready to embrace a new year!
Thanks for your friendship and support!
Love, Terri

4:13 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Paula,
Wow. We both seemed to be here almost at the same time!
Thanks for reading and commenting here. It was such a zany day—and of course ending it with our wacky friends was the cherry on top.
I hope you guys had a great one and that the year is off to an awesome start!
Looking forward to seeing you later this week!
Lots of love, Terri

4:16 PM  
Anonymous Sara Hawkins said...

Terri, I'm so thrilled you'll be celebrating 10 years of remission! That's a fantastic milestone!

I love that you didn't let any of these individual situations snowball into something that would ruin your few days during the holidays.

I'm glad they got your coat out of the door and got the car fixed up. That's a nice coat and I can imagine you wouldn't want to damage it.

As for your friend and their drunken state, I'm sure that person was very close to the fine line between over-celebratory friend and drunken fool. At least you took it all in stride. I learn a lot from you, Terri.

Be well and here's to an awesome 2016!

7:04 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Sara,

It was so wonderful to have hang time with you in November. Thank you for the good wishes here, as well as for sticking with this meandering tale of "what the heck!?"

Grateful the guys rescued the coat. And I'm glad I have a backup Northface! Sara. It snowed here today! Can you imagine that in AZ? Oh, I forgot, you have Flagstaff, so of course you can! It didn't stick, but maybe tomorrow!

Thinking about our friend and wondering if an intervention should be on the docket for this coming year! It's getting out of hand!

Wishing you and yours the best year, ever! Thanks for your friendship!

((HUGS)) and thanks for reading, Terri

8:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow! Was that all in ONE DAY? Crazy! Thanks for the interesting info about Uber/Lyft/Cabs. Congrats on 10 years in remission... I'm so thankful to have you in my life! love you! (your sis, who cannot figure out how to post here other than using anonymous)

8:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amazing photo!!!!

8:59 AM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Meliss,

Thanks for reading this and for your funny comment. Yes, it was one day. Actually more like 12 hours, but a pretty crazy one.

The ride sharing apps are great, and give us some great options for getting from one place to the next. That being said, it was funny how Yellow Cab was the most responsive.

You and I both have a lot to celebrate this year!

Lots of love, me

1:17 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Meliss,

We shot the family photo with 4 different cameras, including a "real" Nikon. The image we chose for the Christmas card was shot with a Nexus 6P, and was the picture where Charley was so funny! The above photo was the nicest "normal" photo where we all looked pretty good, and it was shot with the Droid Turbo 2. Very nice camera and easy to use!

Love, me

1:19 PM  
Anonymous Ralph A. Gilmore said...

Happy New Year Terri! This was truly a wonderful read. There's nothing more important than spending time with family and the people that you love. Here's to a great 2016! I'm glad to call you my friend. Cheers!!

1:27 PM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Ralph,

You've always been such a great friend, and I really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment on this post. It's just like you to be kind and giving!

We're into the second half of January, and it's hard to believe time is zipping by so quickly. I hope your 2016 is shaping up to bring you lots of positive people and things.

Spending time with family and friends makes all of life's hassles endurable!

Wishing you and your family all the best, and thank you again for your wonderful friendship!

Cheers & ((HUGS))
Terri

3:51 PM  
Blogger Mitch said...

What a wild tale to end 2015! My year was pretty boring compared to just your last day. We don't have Lyft or Uber in town yet and I'm not so sure I'd be using them anyway; after reading this I still have mixed emotions, especially since those weasels charged you for them not showing up.

I wish you a great 2016!

8:52 AM  
Blogger terrinakamura said...

Dear Mitch,

Yep. It was a weird one, for sure. But as Shakespeare wrote, "All's well that ends well!"

To be honest, Uber and Lyft are normally pretty convenient. It just so happened that particular day the stars were NOT in alignment! And I was able to connect with a human being with Lyft who removed the charge.

So glad we have had a chance to meet on Twitter. I'm enjoying our budding friendship!

Happy new year to you, too!

Cheers & thanks, Terri

1:31 AM  

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